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Lol like the pic, I want to say that you must understand arrange marriages today are not like before although some cases have been reported. You now get to choose who you want to get married to and get to know each other years before you officially gat married think of it like erm… going with you dad to a car showroom, picking a car but road testing it before you buy it. From what I heard, back in the day of you were getting an arrange marriage it was as if you were marrying the whole family which is the reason why they have had a high success rate, if the couple are unhappy they would feel pressured by their family and feel their families would looses respect from others making it difficult for them to consider divorce.
Arrange marrige although not as common as the 60's is still present and this behaviour is dangerous. I want to share a case with you about somone i know who was forced into an arrange marriage many years ago, she didn't know the man who she was going to marry untill her wedding day (imagine that) and she later found he was a notorious drug dearler after a long struggle she was finally divorced. When parents are deciding on a marriage they are blind to what the potential partner is up to, allowing their daughter/son to be involved with someone elses life thye know nothing about and only speak to the parents of that partner, the main difference between western marriges and this marriage is that western ones ususlly know who there parner is and all their secrets they are reluctant to talk about.
The following case links to a recent article illustrating how wrong it is to be divorded form an arrange marriage according to some people, a woman was killed in the name of "honour":
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Sereena, thank you for blogging about this.
Actually, though, the issue isn't arranged marriage as much as forced marriage. Granted, the difference can sometimes be difficult to detect.
But forced marriages have been triggers for dishonor killings both before they have taken place and after. Some girls and women object too much to the selected partner and are killed for doing so. Others suffer through, then are killed either during the marriage or after they have fled it.
So it's the whole notion of forcing a girl or a woman to marry someone not of her choice that poses the risk, not just an eventual divorce.
Ellen R. Sheeley, Author
"Reclaiming Honor in Jordan"
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